What will you do if your boyfriend cheats on you?
Indeed I am addressing these posts to all the girls out there who have been, are or perhaps were cheated by their boyfriend. Somehow I KNOW it's quite OVERRATED.
Iv'e been broken and cheated once but I don't want to be involved with it again. As far as I could remember I have been BULAG-BINGI at the time where my "EX BF" (emphasis on the ex) cheated on me. As I have always a brand new and fresh start, I moved on with the idea on "Cheating" for 8 months, I don't want to rush on another relationship but then why not make it a try? ayt? so as I then say...
Maybe this time. it will be for the better.
Oooops! I expected a lot, I failed just as what everybody calls it "EPIC FAIL".
I somehow been immune of those facts but then again it just overdid its purpose " To ruin my thoughts" though I did not caught my boyfriend in an ACTUAL STATE of cheating (better hope so not) but I have been reading through his phone messages. HEHEHE... *insert anna's deviant smile here*.
I might be too hysterical, too possessive, or too "Praning" or worse toooooooooo over-reacting! but I couldn't get it off my head. Srsly!. I considered it cheating!
This cheating thing have aggravated our relationship, I don't want to take revenge nor reciprocate on what he did, I believe in God but I also believe in karma...
I just wish this painful experiences were like pancakes so as I could just flip it and do what I want on the other side in order to make me happy. OOOh! well, I do love pancakes!
Excuses were over-used, why can't you just be honest with me? Problems? we can sort it out.
Going back to those lame messages, he even dare to save it, for what purposes? to hurt me? he didn't even bother to save MY messages.
Am I simply pathetic now? Oh yeah! ... then perhaps I have to redefined my goals, expectations and reconstruct my objectives, I don't want to give up now. I've come this far to save the relationship, I know there's still hope somewhere.
Honesty isn't Just the Best Policy -- Honesty is Essential
So the only way to avoid settling for less than you want in a relationship is to
be very clear about everything you want in a relationship in the first place.
This isn't just a list of which behaviors you don't want and which ones you do.
This starts by developing your own list of everything you truly value in a
relationship, and then identifying character traits and behaviors that will give
you everything you value.
Honesty starts by being honest with yourself about what you truly want, and
then being honest with yourself about whether what you truly want is
"negotiable". In the past you may have wanted honesty, but on more than
one occasion you may have been willing to enter into a relationship before
you were certain that honesty existed.
What I do really value right now is the LOVE , the love that I have infused and gave just to reach this far.
Though...
The Possibilities are Endless
Of course, there are many other possible ways that this conversation might
go. The important thing is to make sure you are honest about what you want
and are communicating this to your partner. Honest communication is the only
way to ensure that you're not giving up on what's important to you, or end up
being surprised that your partner wants completely different things in a
relationship.
We must hurt in order to grow, fail in order to know, & lose in order to gain because some lessons in life, are best learned through pain!
♥ LIVE.LOVE.LAUGH♥
